Hi Joliel,

Thank you for your question. I’m glad to hear that your move abroad has forged a stronger bond and deeper appreciation for your family. I understand completely where you are coming from, as my immediate family and I have moved away from the place I called home for 24 years.
Sometimes I miss having the option of visiting or calling my loved ones whenever I want to. I love my family very much.
In the case of your sister I’d start by telling her how you feel. I am sure she doesn’t mean to send you unsatisfactory e-mails. Sometimes it is not so easy keeping in contact with those you hold in your heart via e-mails. You can’t really express how you feel freely or talk freely. Maybe you two should set a date once a month to just chat via Skype or on the phone, catch up on all the juicy details of your life since the last time you spoke.
You said your sister has a family and she moved abroad for a better life. Your sister and I have a few things in common. Trying to make a better life for yourself, especially with a new family is not easy.
I have a 3 year old daughter who wants constant attention, is potty training (peeing and pooping all over the house), talks non-stop, doesn’t sleep much and calls after me 1000 times a day. I have a four-month old son, enough said. I have a husband who needs me; and still have dreams for myself (I desire to be a writer among other things). There is so much I want to do, I find myself constantly working till I finally crash in my bed at 11:00/12:00 at night.
Enough about me though, your question wasn’t about me, it’s about having the kind of relationship with your sister you want. Relationships like anything else in life requires work, it doesn’t just happen. So if you want to be closer to your sister, you make it happen. Call her more, e-mail her more, tell her you love her and you want to be able to talk to her about things sisters should be able to talk about. Also put yourself in her shoes, find out about her life, maybe she is not neglecting you on purpose. Maybe she is just at a stage in her life where keeping in contact is not the easiest thing to do. I am sure she loves you and is very proud of what you are doing with your life, be proud of her too.
I hope my advice helped and encouraged you in someway. I hope everything works out and your relationship with your sister grows stronger than ever.